Hello friends, I hope you are doing well. We are still dealing with a seemingly never-ending cold snap here in Toronto, but hey, brighter days are ahead. I will stand by this belief.
Now, to be honest, I didn’t really watch 90210 show growing up. It was just one of those shows I knew about and would always recognize the iconic theme song, but I never really got into it. Nonetheless, everyone knew who Luke Perry was, whether or not you watched the show. He was easy on the eyes to say the least.
Although I didn’t follow Luke’s career post-90210, from what I’ve read up on recently, he was starring on a show called Riverdale and truly seemed like a very decent and kind family man. May he rest peacefully and I hope his family can find peace and comfort during this difficult time.
Social Media – The Darker Side
On the heels of Luke’s passing, another unfortunate story broke later in the week. A couple of his former co-stars came under fire for simply not posting a tribute ‘soon’ enough. I found this particularly bothersome because it just shows how far gone society is when it comes to dealing with personal emotions, especially one as sensitive as grief.
Celebrities are still human beings so why should they not be allowed time to grief in peace without the stress of having to post something in a timely manner? There is now this unspoken obligation to ‘answer’ to almost rush your personal feelings in order to appease the online masses. It’s not cool.
On Jennie’s Garth’s Instagram page, one comment said something to the effect of, ‘oh you must not care enough since you didn’t post a tribute’.
Come on, really?
Just because someone hasn’t rushed to social media to post something is by no means a reflection of how they feel about something. Everyone deals with grief in their own way and no one has a right to infringe on your peace simply because they don’t understand your way of handling something.
We don’t know what someone is thinking or feeling or what they are truly going through when they are offline facing the real world. It does not make it okay to put people down or to judge them for what is a personal choice.
The Downside to Hashtags
I’m a fan of hashtags under normal circumstances, however, I remain conflicted over the trend that has developed over the last few years of having a relevant “PrayFor…” hashtag signifying a world tragedy.
I understand the sentiment and encourage the spread of love and support, and hashtags are often easy ways to search for related stories on Twitter and Instagram, but it’s the expectation that has been put upon society in this digital era is what I am at odds with. We are not trying to run a campaign or ‘brand’ a tragic event, and to me, a trending hashtag inadvertently does that. It distracts us from actually praying for the victims and reflecting on the gravity and seriousness of the event.
Anyways, let’s continue to practice what we seem to need constant reminders of – and that’s being kind and respectful to one another, in spite of our differences.
Speaking of being kind…
By now, we’ve all heard about the whole college cheating scandal that broke earlier this week too. I’m still trying to wrap my head around Lori Loughlin‘s involvement in this. I was pretty taken aback by the whole thing because I’ve always been a fan since her ‘Aunt Becky’ days on Full House and followed her on social media fairly regularly. In fact, I had checked her Instagram story the very morning this all went down, and by the afternoon, her page was gone!
I also couldn’t help but have flashbacks to that episode of Full House when her character and Uncle Jesse tried cutting corners to get their twins into a better pre-school. The real-life irony was just too hard to ignore.
Now, in the wake of this scandal, her daughter, Olivia (pictured above), has been taking a lot of heat on social media. Yes, a major wrongdoing was allegedly committed, but let’s keep things in perspective; we only know what the media has run with, and for all we know, many of the students involved in this may not have even known what was going on before the story broke.
Olivia only knows the life that she has grown up in, so the blame really cannot all be put on her. Sadly, wealth and power have a way of distorting people’s definition of right from wrong and if her parents felt justified in exercising certain actions without thinking about the potential consequences, then what is a child to think any differently?
The fallout from this has already been significant, so the family is clearly dealing with enough as it is and don’t need online strangers making it worse by spewing unnecessary hate and personal insults.
No one is perfect by any means and suddenly someone’s indiscretion comes to light – it’s a free for fall to throw them under the bus? I can’t say that I suddenly hate Lori Loughlin. I’m not impressed at all with what she is being accused of, but I also don’t know her personally and there is always so much more to a story than meets the eye. Hate is such a strong word and is thrown around way too loosely as it is, in my opinion.
Always put yourself in the others shoes – if it was you, you would not want people coming after you like angry hyenas either. Remember the old saying, ‘if you’ve got nothing nice to say, don’t say anything at all”.
So the moral of the story: Never let social media control how you deal with your personal feelings on something, or have it be a vehicle to stick it to someone to get a momentary blip of satisfaction.
As a great civil right activist once said,
“Darkness cannot drive out darkness: only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate: only love can do that.”Martin Luther King Jr.