My birthday just recently passed on December 27th and I am now the big 3-6. I can’t believe how old I’m getting. It’s amazing and depressing all at the same time. 🙂
It’s always nice having a birthday during the Christmas holiday season because it just adds to all feels of goodness and harmony around this time of the year. It may not be a milestone birthday but this year was particularly special because I saw it as a perfect opportunity to reconnect with people that I had been yearning to for so long.
For too long now, I always questioned why I felt a void, as if something was missing, and then I realized that I was really lacking the face to face, personal interactions with extended family and friends, just in general. I’ve made the mistake over the years of getting so caught up in my own life that I’ve not been great at keeping connected with loved ones. And by connected, you know I don’t mean social media. I mean a real, personal connection. The invitations would come from others, and more often than not, I would go, but the reciprocation wasn’t really there on my part. And I never meant for this to happen on purpose. I think I saw these opportunities to engage at other people’s events as an escape from my own real-life problems that I lost sight of the importance of reciprocating.
I have been in fairly regular contact with a couple of really friends over the years, but I felt very disconnected with the rest of my extended family and friends that I hadn’t seen in so long. So it became not so much about my birthday in the end, but more a stark realization that I needed to sort of crawl out of this hole that I’d inadvertently kept myself in.
It was also then that I realized how long it had been since I had actually planned and initiated anything. I always had the idea in the back of my mind to do something, but then the timing was never right, something would always get in the way, and then before you know it, those connections you are so eager to restore, are fading further away from you.
This year it really hit me how much I really needed and wanted to change this. I needed to bring people together and re-establish those long-lost connections and also open up the opportunity for new ones to be born.
So this year my birthday just happened to be the perfect opportunity to make that happen. I organized an intimate gathering with some family and friends and it was exactly what I needed – just being in the company of good people interacting with one another. And because I hosted something for a change, it was extra special to me. It gave me the long overdue opportunity to see people I hadn’t seen in so long and I was so humbled that they took time out of their busy holiday schedules to spend a few hours with me.
If you’ve read my previous posts, you’ll know my take on resolutions, but this is certainly one positive change I want to sustain going forward – to have more personal interactions with family and friends. This includes reaching out to people who’ve been on your mind and that you’ve not seen in a while, and also reinforcing the connections that are already there. People lift other people up. We need to feed off of each other’s positive energy to keep going.
That’s when social media takes a back seat.
Our phones are only as powerful as we allow them to be. Let’s undo the damage “mobile-geddon” has inflicted upon us and restore a life where we actually speak to people that are in the same room as us.
Ellen DeGeneres recently did a comedy special on Netflix called Relatable (her first in 15 years), and she eluded to this fact: her and her partner, Portia, can be sitting four feet away from each other, and literally be texting one another. It’s funny to a degree but goes to show you the level at which social media has taken over the way we communicate – and not necessarily in a good way.
I’m all about restoring the beauty of communicating the old-fashioned way, where we not only talk to one another, but make that special eye contact with each other, to smile at each other, gestures that really solidify the strength of a connection that isn’t tainted by the constant disruption of our phones.
My mini celebration was a warm reminder of how important that truly is.
People lift other people up. We need to feed off of each other’s positive energy to keep going.– Sarah Warsi
Here’s a snippet of some the fun. There were some people that couldn’t make it and their presence was missed, but I really cherished my time with the ones that were able to come. And, of course, while I endorse the importance of personal connections, a party is never complete without at least a handful of selfies. 🙂
So as we continue on our journey into a new year, I want to continue to enrich my relationships with those closest to me and try not to lose sight of giving back when I can. Nothing beats the warmth of being around those you genuinely connect with and care about.
We can also never be reminded of this too many times, but as we progress in life, let’s always remember that at any given time, someone is fighting some sort of internal, silent battle, so no matter how things may seem, always gravitate towards kindness and patience. The world can be a much more peaceful place if we all just learn to be more accommodating to each other’s vulnerabilities.
Wishing all of you a very blessed and happy 2019 filled with love, warmth, good health, success and prosperity.