Most, if not all of us, are constantly striving to reach that endless sense of fulfillment in life. It’s a daily battle and only gets more challenging as we grow older.
The key to sustaining your inner peace and contentment as you go through this journey is remembering that you are exactly where you are meant to be.
Sometimes, when I’m having a “I feel sorry for myself” moment, I often think back to my past and wallow in regret wishing I could have made better choices in certain aspects of my life. I’m sure we’ve all been there: what if I had done this better? What if I’d had the wisdom then that I do now? You could make your head spin with all the “would have could have, should have’s” but it won’t change the way your life panned out.
If things were meant to have been different then, they would have been, it’s that simple. I strongly believe that we never truly learn the lessons of life until we go through the necessary storms. Sometimes those storms turn into hurricanes and the end just seems near, but when the skies clear, and you are able take the time to reflect, it all tends to make sense. If God wanted you to see the light at that point in your life, then you would have, but there was a reason that you didn’t – it just wasn’t the right time. Everything happens when it does and how it does for a greater purpose, and while at the time, it may seem completely confusing and unfair, it all usually becomes quite clear when you look back.
I look back on darker periods in my life and I amaze myself when I think, “Damn, how did I get through that?” And yet here I am. Of course, I’m now faced with a new set of challenges that come with this phase in my life, but as the saying goes, “what doesn’t kill you, makes you stronger” and it’s true: you will amaze yourself at your own level of strength by just keeping on going like the Energizer bunny.
So when you feel yourself getting down in the dumps about the past, remind yourself that all we really have is right now and the choices we make in the present moment will shape our future. Striving for an ideal way of living is completely normal, but it’s really the journey that matters the most. As long you live a lifestyle synonymous with that seemingly unreachable goal, you’ll see that things will generally be okay.
A good example is a friend of mine just started a short-term gig and was told that they couldn’t take time off during the Christmas season because of a vacation freeze. I empathized to a point, because I know it can be rough knowing that you can’t take an extended vacation, but this is a perfect example of the importance of living your present life as you would want your future self to be: you have got to look at the bigger picture and realize what’s really important: and that’s having a job at all in this volatile economy and looking ahead at the great things you could achieve by working hard and being optimistic. Last year, I attended a conference and one thing that was mentioned that really resonated with me was that as an employee, you need to make yourself indispensable to a workplace – be so great that getting rid of you is simply not an option. If you work as if you are a full-time employee, you will eventually become one through the demonstration of that hard-work and committment. It all comes down to the positive energy. Carry yourself the way you want to be treated and it will get noticed by your peers. Don’t settle for anything less and don’t cave into the BS.
So no matter what goals and ideals you are striving for, as long as you believe and live the lifestyle that you currently have and want to sustain, there is no reason why the universe shouldn’t pat you on the back for your dedication.
I would love to hear your thoughts. Do you struggle with being content in the present while striving for a better tomorrow?